“In a mirror is where we find a reflection of our appearances, but in a heart is where we find a reflection of our soul.”

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Self-Reflection is a humbling process. Why do you do the things you do & say the things you say? We know what façade we put forth to the public but only we know what’s really going on inside.  When you do a soul searching what do you find? Do you like what you see? What are you gonna do about it?

You have to start by finding out what makes you tick. What made you who you are? Whether it be good, bad or indifferent, something in life shaped you. Now what is it that you’d like to see different? It’s never too late to change. I think everyone is capable of change. Change is definitely a lot of work but if you’re willing and determined it can happen. Change doesn’t necessarily mean what you’re changing from was bad, change can just mean exactly that…..it’s time for a change.

I know I’ve changed a lot in the last 4 years. I’ve done a lot of self-reflection and I’m definitely not the same person. My life used to be filled with turmoil & anger and I knew something had to change and quick. I wanted to change for myself. I was craving peace & happiness for my soul and I slowly took steps to change things. I let go of a lot of people in my life that served me no purpose except cause me grief. Then I noticed that things that used to make me angry didn’t anymore. I didn’t have as much anxiety & I was more easy going.  I now lead a much more simple life. Some may find it boring but I feel I’m where I need to be in life right at this moment & I’m completely satisfied and happy.

The trick to life, I discovered, is to be able to walk away from anything or anyone that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy. There’s nothing wrong with that. If you can’t be happy with yourself first you surely can’t make those around you happy 🙂

“Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take the moment & make it perfect”

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There is no such thing as “a perfect moment” or even “perfection” for that matter. That perfect defining moment will be different to each person.

What makes your heart sing? Is it a brief moment of silence? Is it going to the gym for hours? Is it binge watching all your favorite T.V shows or is it eating 1/2 gallon of your favorite ice-cream for breakfast? All of that qualifies as a perfect moment to someone out there in the world. A perfect moment doesn’t have to be something fancy or exotic. Don’t let anyone define what YOUR perfect moment should be, make it your own. Whatever makes your heart smile should define your perfect moment.

My perfect moment is when I know no one is sick at home and I can escape to the mountains I love to hike or to the park to do Yoga & be at peace within myself to enjoy nature because at that very moment everything is okay in my world.

“Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith”

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So my son hasn’t been feeling well the last couple of months. The scan in February showed he was Cancer free. When he was hospitalized in March, it showed the Cancer came back and spread to his Spleen & Lungs. He’s now on a different Cancer treatment to treat it more aggressively. Thankfully, my son takes everything with a grain of salt. He told me as long as he feels no pain he’ll be fine.

Over the last year I’ve learned a lot of difficult lessons, one lesson is trusting Gods plan even when the future seems uncertain. I prayed for my son to feel no fear & to feel no pain and I asked for strength for myself. So far I’ve been granted all these things.

I have faith that God will get us all through this. So far he’s done a really good job at keeping us strong. One day at a time is the phrase I’ve been living by these days.

“Faith is the only thing I know of that is stronger than fear.”


“I thought I was rescuing her…I thought I was the knight in shining armor…But it turns out; she was the badass princess that was rescuing me.” Steve Maraboli

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I had a conversation the other day with my husband recalling how growing up I always looked to my father for all the answers. He was my hero. He was the problem solver & always made everything okay again.

When my son was diagnosed with Cancer last April and I broke the news to my father… initially, he took it pretty well, as I expected him to. He wanted to come with me when I drove out of state to see my son & speak with the Doctor. When we found out how dire his situation was my fathers demeanor changed. Once we got back to the hotel and we were alone my father sobbed like I had never seen a man sob before. He was inconsolable, there was nothing I could say to him. He told me to just let him be, so I did.

My mind went into overdrive. I didn’t know what to do first but I hit the ground running. I called my husband & we made a laundry list of things to be done. We had to add him back on our insurance, get him back home to NY and get an appointment at Sloan Kettering ASAP! I didn’t have time to think about anything else. I was constantly on the phone either with my husband, Insurance Company, Sloan Kettering, Doctors or American Cancer Society (for support).

Long Story short, we got my son back to NY three weeks later with an appointment at Sloan Kettering. It’s been a year of bi-weekly doctor appointments, bi-monthly hospital stays & regular visiting nurse service at the house.

One day a few weeks ago, my father was over for dinner and we were talking about this crazy year long Cancer ride. My father looked at me & said “You’re my hero…I couldn’t have done everything you did”  He continued, “I wouldn’t know where to start”              He doesn’t even realize he was my role model.

It was at that moment I realized our roles had been reversed. I had always looked to him to solve all the problems & now he looks to me to take care of this one.

“The hardest thing in life is to know which bridge to cross and which to burn”

crossroadsWhat do you do when you’ve reached crossroads in your life? Do you go left or right? It’s time to make a crucial decision that may or may not have life changing consequences.

You need to trust in your instinct. I think we all know deep down inside what the right thing is. We face conflict when the right thing doesn’t feel good but we ultimately know it is the right thing to do. Like walking away from a bad relationship no matter how much time you’ve invested, making a decision when a loved one is ill, or telling a friend a truth that they may not want to hear. If you know deep down inside your decision is made with the best intentions & good faith then you have to trust yourself.

How about new experiences that come into your life that you’re unsure of when you’re so used to the old and familiar. You’re fearful of the unknown so you proceed with caution. That’s ok cause we’re all human. I think the same concept applies. Trust your instinct & go forward with good intentions in your heart. It’s better to have tried & failed than have regret for not trying later on.

Take a deep breath & go with it.

Promote What You Love Instead of Bashing What You Hate.

BBF29F5B-067A-4EF0-9B08-4280CB1B7C4FI first started Yoga in May 2014 because it was advised by my therapist (at that time) to find a physical hobby to help channel my anxiety & depression. I found when I was busy I didn’t have time to dwell on things that weren’t going right in my life. I was already Hiking which helped so I then began to dabble in Yoga. Yoga kept me occupied at first then slowly turned into a passion. Over time, without realizing it, I let go of the anger & bitterness and focused more on the things that made me happy rather than on the things that didn’t.

It took me a few years to realize that if I maintain my focus on all the good in my life it will overshadow the not-so-good. Life is not perfect & didn’t come with any guarantees. Everyone experiences pitfalls and setbacks but it’s your reaction to these situations that make all the difference in the world. You can choose to remain bitter & angry but where will that get you? Not too far. I chose to re-focus my energy in the good and let the good overshadow the not-so-good. Only you have the power to respond to each situation accordingly. Will you allow it to control you or will you control it?

You are in control of your own destiny!